On this episode of the Stronger Revolution, we talk about Have to vs Get to. So often in life, we proceed throughout our day doing things we think we “have” to do. As a continuation from the last episode of the show on relaxation/stress, when we think we have to do something, stress can often enter the equation. We all have things we want to do in life. However, what we want to do, and what we think we have to do, can often conflict. It’s that conflict that shows up as stress.
You Don’t Have to Do Anything
The first way we can start to avoid this stress in our life is to accept that fact that we don’t HAVE to do anything. Except for a fear of negative consequences, no one can force you to do anything. Your motivation to do something when someone tells you what to do is fear of the negative consequence. For example, you don’t have to do that work assignment from your boss. However, you choose to do it because the negative consequence of losing your job keeps you obedient to the request. If there is no negative consequences that you are afraid of, then you truly have the choice to do whatever you want to do.
Another way to look at this is to note the things in your life that you think you have to do. Then, ask yourself if these items are truly necessary. This is the moment where you have the power to make a choice. Either you decide to continue to do those things. Or, you decide not to do them. If you decide to continue to do those things you think you have to do, then you must accept that choice and align what you want to do with these things you think you have to do. When you do that, the stress will go away.
Change from Have to, to Get to
Once you align what you think you have to do with what you want to do, then you need to change your language. You no longer have to do anything. Now, you “GET” to do everything. This paradigm shift will not only remove stress from your life, but will also fill your life with gratefulness. You now get to do everything you want.
There are people in this world who would give anything to do what you are doing. So, remember, you have every reason to be grateful for what you get to do. If you are not grateful, and don’t want to do it, this is a big indication that you need to make a change in your life in the interest of making yourself happier.
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